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the paris wife…


The Paris Wife by Paula McLain was a wonderful book.

This is a fictional book written from the perspective of Hadley, Ernest Hemingway’s wife.

I actually felt as if I was in her shoes and feeling her ups and downs with her.  This is a beautifully written book and I highly recommend it!

*** On a side note… I prefer to write very short book reviews.  Basically, if I recommend reading it (or not).  I often read book reviews that give too much of the story away.  I would like the story unfold as I’m reading.

Goodreads describes the book:

Chicago, 1920: Hadley Richardson is a quiet twenty-eight-year-old who has all but given up on love and happiness—until she meets Ernest Hemingway and her life changes forever. Following a whirlwind courtship and wedding, the pair set sail for Paris, where they become the golden couple in a lively and volatile group—the fabled “Lost Generation”—that includes Gertrude Stein, Ezra Pound, and F. Scott and Zelda Fitzgerald.

Though deeply in love, the Hemingways are ill-prepared for the hard-drinking and fast-living life of Jazz Age Paris, which hardly values traditional notions of family and monogamy. Surrounded by beautiful women and competing egos, Ernest struggles to find the voice that will earn him a place in history, pouring all the richness and intensity of his life with Hadley and their circle of friends into the novel that will become The Sun Also Rises. Hadley, meanwhile, strives to hold on to her sense of self as the demands of life with Ernest grow costly and her roles as wife, friend, and muse become more challenging. Despite their extraordinary bond, they eventually find themselves facing the ultimate crisis of their marriage—a deception that will lead to the unraveling of everything they’ve fought so hard for.

A heartbreaking portrayal of love and torn loyalty, The Paris Wife is all the more poignant because we know that, in the end, Hemingway wrote that he would rather have died than fallen in love with anyone but Hadley.


better to fold and put away…


The book I am reading now just made me laugh out loud (lol-literally)!

This is the title of the chapter that made me crack up:

Laundry: Better to fold and put away than to take only what you need from the dryer.

I don’t normally stop in the middle of reading a book to make a post – but this book is turning out to be quite good. And, quite funny!

Completely unexpected.

I need a little sign to hang above the washer and dryer. Or, more specifically – the dining room table, where the clean laundry ends up until I fold it and put it away.

Instead of helping me with the laundry duties… my entire household picks what they need out of the dryer (or the dining room table) and goes about their day. Nobody stops to think about helping fold and put away the laundry.

While I know I have a slightly messy house (read about it here) I am willing to wager that I am not the only mom and wife that encounters this laundry issue.

If you keep a to read list please add “The Journal of Best Practices: A Memoir of Marriage, Asperger Syndrome, and One Man’s Quest to Be a Better Husband.”

I think every husband should start a Journal of Best Practices.

And, let’s start the journal with…

Laundry: Better to fold and put away than to take only what you need from the dryer.


fifty shades of funny…


I just started reading “Fifty Shades Freed,” the final book of the “Fifty Shades of Grey” trilogy.

I stared reading the first book because I really wanted to know what all the hype was about.  This book has been on the news, all over the internet, on Good Morning America, 20/20, and the Today Show.  I wanted to read the books, so that I could discuss it with “everyone.”

What surprised me is that I have totally enjoyed reading the books.  Beyond the sex is a love story with two interesting characters.  It has kept me reading and I want to know what happens at the end.  I will continue to read and hope that the characters end up together.

In my true form, I have been discussing the book, a lot… with anyone who will listen.  I am pleading my case that the books have more to it than just sex (although, there is a lot of sex, don’t get me wrong).

So, last night I am on the phone with my mom and we are discussing the first book in the trilogy,  My husband is sitting by me watching TV (I did not think he was listening to my conversation).  I am telling my mom, in my opinion, the sex parts of the book were written for a woman to read.   The author does not use gross language when she describes any “encounters” and I thought that a man would want to read about the sex in a different way, with different words and different descriptions.

My husband looks up and says “We need pictures.”

I almost fell over laughing.

pinterest words…


Occasionally, you will find me looking at the “pins” on Pinterest.

At first, I didn’t understand the premise behind the pinning and the boards.  But, now I am really getting into it!

My favorite thing to pin (or repin) are the quotes.  Yeah, I like the recipes and the clothes – but, I normally can’t afford the clothes I pin (or repin) and nobody in my family will eat the fancy recipes I pin (or repin).  But, a girl can dream, right?

So, the quotes are what I like and some of them are really great!  In addition, I have also realized I have some pretty deep, thoughtful and caring friends that pin (or repin) these words.   Yes, my friends also pin (or repin) some silly stuff.  But, so do I… I have a separate board for funny, called “funny”   (yes, very creative – I know).

My husband may not enjoy the pinning (or repinning) of quotes as much as I do.  After I pin (or repin) a great quote – I send him a text of the quote.  I feel like this quote (of the moment) will change his day, enlighten him, and make him a deep-thinker.  I envision him standing there, in awe of what he just read, and he will be thrilled that I shared these words with him.

I may be wrong about this.

I usually get a text response to my quote that says “kool” or “yup, good one.”  But, I still think he is deeply moved by the words that I just shared with him.

I have compiled a list of my favorite Pinterest quotes:

  • Don’t give up what you want most, for what you want now.
  • Be curious, not judgmental – Walt Whitman
  • Our prime purpose in this life is to help others.  And, if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them – Dalai Lama
  • If you judge people you have no time to love them. – Mother Teresa
  • The more you love your decisions, the less you need others to love them.
  • No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.  – Eleanor Roosevelt
  • Spend life with who makes you happy, not who you have to impress.
  • Be the change you want to see in the world.
  • While we try to teach our children all about life, our children teach us what life is all about.
  • You don’t have to attend every argument you’re invited to.
  • Your beliefs don’t make you a better person, your behavior does.
  • Everybody is a genius, but if you judge a fish by it’s ability to climb a tree, it will live it’s whole life believing that it’s stupid.  – Albert Einstein
  • Integrity is doing the right thing when nobody is watching.
  • Happiness will never come to those that don’t appreciate what they already have. 
  • If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s,  we’d grab ours back.

And, my all-time favorite…

  • You may think the grass is greener on the other side, but if you take the time to water your own grass it would be just as green.

As you can see… my time on Pinterest pinning (and repinning) has been well spent.  I feel more enlightened just reading the words I have compiled… and I just know my husband does too.

Take time to water your own grass.

Photography of Melanie by Gregory C. Gamradt